Emotional Wellbeing for Women who want to Thrive: “Spot it, to Drop it!”

We live in a world where women are judged more harshly for many things than men are. Untidy home? Women get judged. Speaking up loudly during meetings? Women get judged. Prioritizing their career over children. You guessed it; Women get judged.

It is unsurprising that at least some of this experienced reality becomes internalized. We stress ourselves about the state of your home, before visitors arrive while the male partner relaxes with a hobby. We judge other women for being unnecessarily loud or call them hysterical (feeling nauseous just writing this) while we consider a man doing the same thing to be “leadership material”. We tut at the “egotistical” career women for being a bad mom, while swooning over that one male colleague who leaves work early to pick up their child from daycare once (ignoring the majority of men rarely do so).

Sometimes, we need to see how our own behaviour is problematic first, before we can learn to be kinder to ourselves. With time and effort we can learn to feel calm too before guests arrive, because we accept that homes don’t have to be in a perfect, magazine worthy state when guests arrive. We have to notice the strength in speaking out in others, so we feel capable of doing the same. Finally, by expanding our own definitions of what being successful can look like, we might discover how our own lives can be expanded to bring us joy and fulfillment.

In short: Spot it, to drop it.
What are your blind spots?

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ABOUT THIS BLOG FORMAT: Short but Potent

This is a new format of my blog. With this format I want to specifically address, talk about and support women. The posts are shorter and meant to be thought-inspiring. I know that long-winded texts can feel overwhelming. So to make talking about feminist topics more accessible, I want to offer you more bite-sized posts that feel less overwhelming.